A few days ago you experienced (via phone) my first big thrift store experience with me! I was thrilled with my purchase of 6 pairs of pants and 6 shirts for the kids which totaled $27. Not only did I love that receipt, but it was so much easier than I thought it would be. But while browsing, you stopped me from buying the really cute throw pillows ($4 each) that match my living room perfectly and would replace my shabby ones that Honey has been secretly removing the stuffing from because I didn't "need" them. I have to admit that I have regretted not buying those pillows. You, after all, got a cashmere sweater! Can't I have two throw pillows?
Sunday I heard this quote by President Monson, "Avoid the philosophy and excuse that yesterday’s luxuries have become today’s necessities. They aren’t necessities unless we ourselves make them such. " I think it's interesting that 150 years ago Thoreau had a similar idea in his book, Walden (on my list to read again this year). "Simplify, simplify. Instead of three meals a day, if it be necessary eat but one; instead of a hundred dishes, five; and reduce other things in proportion." If they could reduce 150 years ago, just think how many things we have today that aren't necessities.
I've been thinking a lot about defining need and I think I'd like to have a discussion about ways to know if we need something or not. Need can be a shifty thing, so it's helpful to me if I have criteria to base my decisions on. I also think that everyone has different things that they need. Obviously someone who has a career has to have a different wardrobe than I do. People who entertain in their homes for business purposes might need to have a different set up than we do. So the question is, what is sufficient for my needs? Here's some ideas of questions to ask myself and things to do before buying something.
1. If it's for my wardrobe:
- First, figure out what clothes are sufficient for my needs. How many pants, skirts, etc. do I need to look presentable? Get rid of the excess.
- Am I replacing an item that is worn out and beyond use or am I just adding another piece?
- Do I really need to replace the worn out item?
- Can I survive (literally) without it?
- If I do really need it, make sure I find what I love, that it fits correctly and is something I will really wear.
- Stay away from trendy fashions.
2. If it's for the home:
- Is the item just for aesthetics or will greatly improve the functionality of our home?
- Do I need the item to ensure that my home doesn't structurally deteriorate?
- Can I cook for my family without it or does feeding them rely on the item?
- Do we need it to stay warm?
- Can I entertain guests in a simply furnished home? (Yes)
4. Wait and think about it before lumping it into the "need" category.
5. Make a list of needs before shopping. No purchasing unless the item is on the list.
6. Remember the actual definition of need: something you have to have in order to survive, vs. want: something you would like to have, it might be good, but not necessary for survival.
I'd like to hear your ideas about this! I think it will be much easier to have firm guidelines in place.
P.S. Thanks for talking me down. I didn't need those throw pillows.